How to Prepare

Separation throws you into unknown territory and can leave you feeling totally overwhelmed.

Let’s simplify things. Here is a brief overview of what happens, what you need to do and what help is available.

What happens at Mediation?

Identify Issues

Assisted Conversation

Confidential Chat With Mediator

Negotiation

Agreement/Conclusion

    1. You will each tell me what you consider the issues to be, and what you hope to achieve.
    2. We will set an agenda for the Mediation, which is the list of topics to discuss in the order you wish to discuss them.
    3. I will assist you to talk to each other as you explore each topic.
    4. I will speak to each of you privately.
    5. You will negotiate with the goal of coming to an agreement.

How do you prepare for Mediation?

What do you want to achieve from Mediation? Most importantly, you are doing this for your children, so what do they need? Think about the following:

    • The time your children will be spending with each parent, including living arrangements, term time, holiday time, and special occasions.
    • How decisions relating to your children’s education and medical treatment will be made.
    • What the changeovers will look like 
    • How the children will be financially supported – who will pay for what?
    • How the children will be disciplined at each household
    • What extracurricular activities the children will be doing

Obtaining legal advice will help you to understand:

  • Your rights as a parent
  • Your children’s rights
  • How the court would consider your matter
  • What parenting arrangements can/should be made
  • What type of agreements can be entered into 
  • What happens if an agreement cannot be reached

Free legal advice is available from the following bodies:

4324 5611

1300 888 529

1800 050 321

Local solicitors:

4343 3000

4302 0162

4350 3333

Has your family experienced family violence?

What is family violence?

Section 4AB of the Family Law Act (Cth) 1975 defines family violence as violent, threatening or other behaviour by a person that coerces or controls a member of the person’s family or causes the family member to be fearful. This section goes on to provide examples of behaviour that would be considered ‘family violence’.

Where to seek help

Are you struggling to mentally cope with the separation?

1800 187 263

4363 6600

131 114

Parenting is hard, parenting after separation is harder - would you like help?

Parenting Courses

Interrelate

  • Building Connections
  • Circle Of Security
  • Parents Not Partners

Relationships Australia

  • Parenting After Separation: Focus On Kids
  • Tuning Into Teens
  • Bringing Up Great Kids

 

How Are Your Children Coping? 

Be Informed – Readings And Videos:

 

Helpful Websites:

Culturally And Linguistically Diverse (CALD) services

If English is not the language spoken in your home, if you would like your cultural heritage acknowledged, if you would like alterations made to the Mediation process or if you would like any other support relating to your cultural identity, please let us know.

Helpful CALD services:

4343 1888

9332 9710

What happens if your matter can’t be resolved at Mediation?

Upon request, I can issue s60i certificates. This certificate enables you to commence legal proceedings to progress your matter through the Family Court.